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【6】《准备》学习笔记|恐惧裹挟下的育儿焦虑|厚积第4318天

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【6】《准备》学习笔记|恐惧裹挟下的育儿焦虑|厚积第4318天

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“研精

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概括”

作者在2001年9·11事件发生当天,得知自己怀孕。安全幻象破碎,面对充满未知的世界,她生出无力感,担忧自己无法保护孩子。孕期里,纷杂矛盾的育儿建议让她迷茫,她努力准备、钻研教育;可当她见识到学区房、连夜排队抢幼儿园名额、靠志愿工作换取优质师资等内卷的育儿竞争后,内心崩溃,发出疑问:养育孩子,为何一定要分出胜负、追逐输赢。

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“思悟

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质疑”

不囿于固有认知,于思悟成长,以质疑前行

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个人思悟

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外部世界的不安,很容易转化成父母内心的焦虑,变成对孩子未来的过度争抢。我们常常在恐惧的驱动下,卷入一场无休止的养育竞赛,把“成功”当成养育的唯一目标。作者的叩问引人深思:养育本不是一场要分出输赢的博弈。比起拼命抢占资源、催促孩子争先,更重要的是给孩子一个安稳、有安全感的成长底色,接纳生命本身的多元,不必用胜负去定义一个孩子的价值。

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